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Just got fired from my dream job (beehaw.org)
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I've worked in sales for 10 years and as an aspiring musician I was dying to teach music or playing music full time for once. I found a job near me for the front desk at a Music school. I somehow managed to get the job, And I was the most experienced sales person they ever hired. For a bit, we were all happy and it was mutual.

I started going through some personal things, And it was impacting my job so I enrolled in therapy and got a prescription for escitalopram and it helped at first, but every few months I would have a conflict with someone, or share my opinion on something I disagreed with alotta.. emotion. We abruptly lost a lot of teachers this holiday season and there were a lot of question marks on what was happening with some programs. A teacher came up and chewed me out for enrolling a student on their schedule for a day they closed but we didn't the update. I expressed my dissatisfaction of this on my end of day report and that was the last straw for them and they fired me at the end of day yesterday. No final paychecks or anything.

I'm pretty torn because I got do the coolest thing ever in my opinion. I got to be the connection between the community and incredible music teachers. I got to do a ton of cool stuff. I learned so many neat things getting to work with musicians of all different backgrounds. I wish I had done better with de-escalating myself but it feels like my brain just goes on autopilot and I can't help it

I guess now I will file for unemployment and apply to all the sales jobs that dont sound too awful. I have no savings and tons of debt and expensive rent so I only have the weekend to get over it.

Thanks for letting me share beehaw.

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[–] Applesause@mander.xyz 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Other comments have touched on the more personally important aspects, but I'd like to highlight:

No final paychecks or anything.

as some fuckin' bullshit, yo. Are you quite sure that's kosher? If you worked and aren't paid for the time, your employer still owes you wages for that time worked regardless of if they're satisfied with your performance or not.

[–] alottachairs@beehaw.org 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well I will get paid hours for what I worked on Friday and Saturday before they let me go, but this Friday was my last full check. My coworker thought that was really rude, and the CEO told me during the meeting "I suggest you file for unemployment right away" - which looking back seems like a snide remark.

[–] Applesause@mander.xyz 9 points 1 day ago

Ah, I see. My condolences, friend. Mental health struggles are real, but you'll bounce back and grow from the experience. I know that seems trite, but I'm confident you'll look back on the experience as something you learned from in the end.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Not to lay blame at your feet as it sounds like there's more going on there than just you venting.

That venting is the only part over which you have control. Never vent at work.

You can be disappointed something didn't work, or is broken, but the only response at that point is to look for how to resolve/prevent/mitigate."Yea, this is annoying, any ideas on how to prevent?"

Again it really seems lots more was going on outside of you (losing teachers? Not a good sign), and perhaps they were looking for a reason to let you go, and perhaps this has been on their radar for some time but wasn't useful until now.

Source: been in exactly your shoes, twice. I can see my part in it both times, but in the end they were looking to let me (and others) go anyway.

[–] GooseGang@beehaw.org 9 points 1 day ago

Yeah the teaching work environment matters a lot. It can get really toxic quickly and then everyone is out for blood instead of trying to support students.

[–] alottachairs@beehaw.org 7 points 1 day ago

Thank you, I do think you are right that they were looking to let me go for a while. I could feel the shift in our relationship. The two other people I worked with are super pissed and think that they are about to clean house anyways, which it looks to be going that way. I hope they just sell the school to someone else, it's clear they don't want it.

[–] artyom@piefed.social 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I expressed my dissatisfaction of this on my end of day report and that was the last straw for them and they fired me

My company keeps emailing me about completing a survey and I have opted out because really I have nothing positive to say, and there's no way it helps me.

Sorry this happened to you.

[–] TehPers@beehaw.org 4 points 1 day ago

The one I work at makes the questions optional at least. And yeah, I've taken advantage of that exactly for that reason.

[–] remington@beehaw.org 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’m so sorry to hear and I wish you the best moving forward. When you are hired please come back and let us know. Take care.

[–] alottachairs@beehaw.org 6 points 1 day ago

Thank you!! And thanks for all you do for Beehaw.

[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 8 points 1 day ago

I have had my dream job, and losing that for political reasons always sucks. But it sounds like you have transferable skills, so that's at least something. Given the state of the job market, I don't know how far "something" goes, admittedly.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 4 points 1 day ago

I mean it might be the field but in my time in IT the longest position I have had has been 10 years. I think my average tenure is like 5 years.