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Femcel Memes

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Welcome to femcel memes. A place where anybody can post memes that fit the vibe.

Warning: We have a tendency to post things that may at times come from a self-deprecating perspective or things that are funny coming from another queer person. This space will always be a safe place for transfems, non-binary people, people with a feminine gender expression (GNC or otherwise) or anybody else in the LGBT Community to come together and share about our experiences but we truly feel that laughing about the sometimes silly and embarrassing parts the queer experience can help bring us together. We never mean offense or harm in anything posted but rather they are satirical takes coming from queer people.

A note about 'Egging': Our community is mostly made up of transfem individuals, and as such most memes posted will be posted with the intention of having a transfem perspective. However, regardless of gender identity, all feminine presenting individuals are welcome here. Whether that means you're NB, GNC, transmasc, or any other identity, you are welcome here. It is not our intention or goal to invalidate these identities. If something makes you uncomfortable, please feel free to report the post and I will address your concerns on an individual level. For more information regarding the problems with 'Egg-culture', please see Here.

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[–] FluorideMind@lemmy.world 7 points 21 hours ago

Idk. I like men. They are so goofy and cute.

[–] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Wait... y'all hate men? That's news to me. The worst I've seen here is the ocasional lesbian "men eww, girl pretty" meme.

[–] FerretyFever0@fedia.io 9 points 1 day ago

Not here, but some of the reddit communites are a bit less friendly. Supposedly as a joke, but if it is one, they're pretty into the bit. Idk, that could be the case.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I thought it was "be lesbian (optional)"

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

It would seem to me that we could add:

"be cute (unavoidable)"

and also

":3"

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 47 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I thought you just had to be some overly horny fuck

[–] socsa@piefed.social 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You can be horny and hate IRL men and yearn exclusively for throbbing anime waifu dick. Or like, particularly handsome bed posts.

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

To the surprise of no one who has seen the shit you people post.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 6 points 2 days ago

Oh, I am no femcel. I do not want to be accused of stolen valor. I am just a fan.

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That's certainly the case as far as I'm concerned.... Spread 'em!

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago
[–] sundray@lemmus.org 51 points 2 days ago (2 children)

too horny to sleep, but too sleepy to horn 😭

[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 days ago

The paradox of ska.

[–] Holytimes@sh.itjust.works 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This is when you break out the magic wand and let the machines do the work.

[–] sundray@lemmus.org 3 points 2 days ago

😵‍💫 🥴

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 22 points 2 days ago (3 children)

New proposal for a functional definition of femcel:

It has to include everyone on...

https://www.reddit.com/r/MyBoyfriendIsAI/


I'll be real with ya'll, 95% of people I encounter outside of this comm (which I love) use the word femcel as if it basically just means 'socially awkward and/or romantically unsuccesful or disinterested cishet woman who has never had a serious relationship or sex, who is also potentially a misandrist'.

Basically, just a cishet inversion of incel, over into a cishet girl/woman.

Whereas the understanding that this community seems to have, is, as best I can tell, is that femcel means basically 'hikkikomori/permaonline transwoman / femboy / nb + feminine expression, etc.'

I'm really not trying to be mean, but it is somewhat difficult to manage the dissonance between how this comm seems to understand 'femcel', and how seemingly everyone else uses the term.

Like, if I am wildly off base here, please correct me... I am confuse.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

femcel comm on Lemmy is the opposite of cishet lol

[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 2 points 23 hours ago

Yeah that's what they said :3

[–] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I've never actually heard femcel used outside of comms like this one.

If anything, the only derogatory term I've heard for refering to misandrist permanently single women is "legbeard".

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 days ago

Welp, I've never heard of 'legbeard' before.

Damn.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You're not entirely wrong, but that's kinda the point. It's more of a vibe than a hard and fast definition; one that seeks to reject the most toxic elements of the inverted male incel. It's more about being a "loser" in the eyes of the rest of society than it is grievances about relationships and sex. While inceldom is centered on their relationship to women, this place is rarely about that. Being a weirdo is far more important than being a virgin.

Also, by virtue of this comm being fairly gay, we don't need to worry as much about men. Unlike MGTOW who can't escape their obsession with women, sapphic girls can actually go their own way.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Ok, I am glad that it just is kinda the point to claim or reclaim or distinctly have your own understanding/usage of the term, or however you would phrase that.

I fear I am too autistic to fully comprehend 'the vibe', but... thats's ok, lol.

That's the part I think I get, being a hikki weirdo, lol.

But I am also a cis, generally masc-presenting, bi (trans inclusive) guy, so, there are elements at play that I don't have direct lived experience with...

... though I have had a good deal of transwomen, gay, lesbian, bi friends and such, and spent a good deal of time in just generally queer spaces, both online and in meatspace.

Which I guess is just me overexplaining my weirdness.

derp.

[–] lurch@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think this meme is wrongfully gendered or at least implying so. An INvoluntary CELibate does not just mean "with women" (even if often the case). It can be with any potential partner, regardless of gender.

On another note, I would expect femcels and masccels to be subgroups of incels, but I understand it's used differently, which I find irritating.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago

Thats... the extremely literal understanding of incel, which perhaps would have worked 5 to 10 years ago.

But we are now in the future where 5 to 10 years of massive association between the term 'incel' and 'redpill' and 'misogynist' and all kinds of other things has occured, so, its a very loaded term beyond its more intial meaning.

I'm trying to say I understand your frustration, it... isn't as simple as strict categories... depending on context, incel or femcel is or could be basically a slur, but some incels also wear the term as a kind of badge of honor...

Its a mess, basically.

Requirements to be femcel:

  • Like women
  • :3
  • Be cute
  • Women are too beautiful I love women 😭
  • Read an unhealthy amount of Yuri
[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I feel like the only requirement is owning or wanting to own a pair of striped thigh-highs!

[–] superfes@lemmy.world 29 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Isn't that software developers?

[–] UnculturedSwine@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Holytimes@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 days ago

Why not both?