No, wealth and status doesn't matter.
And for the 50th time. yes, late 20s can date early 20s. You sure are persistent in asking about age gaps.
this post was submitted on 15 Nov 2025
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No, wealth and status doesn’t matter.
Ok, so what do they mean by "bring something to the table"… By this logic, a pizza delivery guy can offer NOTHING to a girl who comes from a multi-millionaire family.
The pizza guy can bring a pizza to the table.
Seriously though, bringing something to the table means showing up as a person. It means contributing to the relationship and the family. It means doing some of the emotional labour and preemptively doing things that show you care.
The stereotype of the 1950s husband who worked all day, then came home and sat on his ass to be waited on by his wife while the kids do something that doesn’t involve him? That is bringing next-to-nothing to the table, despite being the sole financial resource.
Also, when some people use those words, they just mean “they need to be hot”.
Maybe relationships aren't all about money and physical gifts
Ok, so what do they mean by “bring something to the table”.... By this logic, a pizza delivery guy can offer NOTHING to a girl who comes from a multi-millionaire family.
Maybe he's delivering pizza because he recently returned from a Americorps mission helping to set up irrigation systems in an impoverish region. Perhaps he recently got laid off from his work at NOAA as climate scientist because trump doesn't believe in that and the pizza guy still has bills to pay, so he takes the work he can get. Maybe he's an sculptor that delivers pizza at night because he spends his days in hi studio chipping away at a giant chunk of marble because he can see a beautiful object in that rock and just needs remove everything that doesn't belong.
A person can have more value or character because of what they do outside of how they pay their bills rather than inside of it. A girl from a multi-millionaire family may have a trust fund and doesn't need to earn any more money so she could choose a mate that has made a life of meaning. Hell, if I didn't have to work for money I'd love to so many of those things I listed above.
Different but sorta related story..
While riding my bicycle, not even a dollar to my name, I encountered a woman with like a 2 year old child, with their car broke down on the side of the road. I had very little means to me, but what do?
I couldn't leave the woman and child just hanging there, in my book it's totally wrong to not at least do something to help.
I did a quick check over her car, and figured it wasn't getting fuel to the engine. But she told me she had just filled her tank up at a very nearby gas station.
Note that I might not have had any money, but I did have some tools at home, and a local friend with a truck that I figured might be willing to help.
So I rode home to get my Chevy fuel line disconnect tool, then rode to find the neighbor friend with the truck. He was glad to come help too.
We went back to the lady in distress, to further check her car out. To check my theory, I disconnected her fuel line, then had her turn the key on to see if any fuel would pump.
Nothing came out. So, either bad fuel pump or bad fuel relay. Well she wasn't about to be able to crank up and drive home, so me and my friend helped push her car over to a nearby parking lot, and my friend drove her and her young son to the next town to get them home so she could sort things out, without her young son baking in the sun.
I didn't make a single dollar that day. I wasn't looking for money, I was just doing the right thing as far as I'm concerned. My friend did get like $10 for fuel for his trouble of taking her to the next town, but still, what would you have done?
This might not seem very related, but in a way it kinda is. Not all relationships are romantic, hell if I met you on the sidewalk in the rain and covered you with an umbrella, that's a brief relationship of sorts.
Not everything is about money, sometimes it's just about being able to sleep that night, knowing you did the right thing and the best you could do at the moment.
Now if a prick billionaire is on the side of the road with a flat, I wouldn't even bother to piss on their tire, they got a robot that can change their tire for them right?
Does that make me a hypocrit, or does that make me a genuine decent person? I didn't have to stop to help that lady that day, but I did.
Anyways, thank you for coming to my Ted Talk, sometimes everyone needs a little helping hand...
Does weight matter? To some people. Does height matter? To some people. Does financial status matter? To some people. If you click, you click, if you don't, you don't. Don't overthink it.
It sounds like your family are shortsighted hypocrites who only look at one side of the equation. "If I'm poor, I shouldn't date a rich person because I have nothing to offer but if I'm rich and refuse to date a poor person, that would be discrimination". It doesn't occur to them to think from the other person's perspective
Edit: having given it more thought, an alternative explanation is you completely misunderstood what they meant by having to bring something to the table. Maybe they weren't talking about money and meant emotionally.