I hope this is a troll. If not you really need to work in yourself.
Relationship Advice
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as someone with a gamer gf, i feel like you really need to spend more time with your partner. you can't just game 24/7 and expect them to still want to be with you, quite frankly. a relationship goes both ways and you should really do something about your mental health/addiction. yes, i saw you play for 11+ hours by the way. that is indeed an addiction.
Lol wtf get off the fucking games and get real
No offense, but if you're that absorbed with video games, are you really cut out for dating? I still give my boyfriend and girlfriend (open relationship) my time and attention even if I do play games with the buddies for hours (5 hours LOL).
What is your question?
how do i be there for them still? can we keep this relationship?
We can't answer that with any confidence from what you've told us, but I would suggest that you urgently need to tend to your own mental health if you wish to be helpful to others.
Yikes, dude. I don't think you are well positioned to be in any relationship. Which is unfortunate because your partner sounds like they need a good support system. If you like your partner enough, fix your behavior. If you don't, break up with them.
i talk to him for about 30min a day, is that good???
That depends entirely on both of you and your relationship, and if you don’t know you should ask him (and be ready for a deep/long conversation).
Everyone and every relationship is different.
A relationship can only work if everyone is getting out of it what they need.it sounds like your partner isn't getting what they need currently. If you care about them, it might be worth trying to game less and be present more, or at least gaming at different times when they don't need you to be present.
You can be there for them. You just have to choose to.
Name checks out.