Its funny cause before i wouldnt have had a problem with it but they way she put it is kinda interesting lol.
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No issues... Sometimes you gotta think of her sister to finish so fair is fair..
I never considered this would bother anyone. The vibrator gets used probably over half the time my partner and I have sex. Even when she cums from oral and we move to PIV then when I’m getting ready I’ll hand her the vibrator when I’m getting close because her climaxing again makes it hit a lot harder for me. Usually I’m inside of her actively while she uses it but on rare occasions when I go clean up she will stay back and finish for another time.
Emasculated goes a bit far but I kinda get it. It doesnt bother me if a sexual encounter starts with a toy, but "let me grab my vibrator so I can finish" is a night that ends with me feeling like I'm not good enough and probably going to bed feeling bad about myself. It's something thats turned a few dates into one night stands for me when I told them how it made me feel and they were dismissive of my feelings
If they can't get off from PIV and want a vibration to get over the edge, that shouldn't affect your feelings about adequacy. Unless you can vibrate your dick at 500rpm, it's not you.
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It’s way more about anatomy than inadequacy. Many women can’t orgasm from PIV sex.
Personally, I am always delighted when someone I’ve just had sex with wants to orgasm in my presence. Never once hurt my feelings.
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She gets hers and he gets his. Wheres the problem?
Maybe ask her if you can do anything to replace the vibrator and when she says you can vibrate her clit with your dick at 50 Hz, you tell her to just use the vibrator.
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Life is too short not to have a good vibrator, no matter what bits you have or what bits you are attracted to, doesn't matter.
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Do whatever gets the job done. So many unnecessary hangups.
If she needed me to kill a chicken for her to get off, I'd ring that poor little bastard's neck (the chicken's, just to be clear.)
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Reading OPs post and the responses.. What even is sex? Are we just rubbing genitals and hoping both parties get off without paying attention to each other?
Even casual sex requires synchrony, alignment, flow, attentiveness etc. That's part of what makes it enjoyable. Climaxing is the outcome of the connection made, however temporary, by that synchrony and alignment.
Treating sex like a race to the climax will only make you worse at it over time. Depriving it of initimacy and spirituality will make it so that you need to chase more and more physical stimulation to make it pleasurable.
The process is as important as the outcome (moreso even). Focus on that process if you want to make the experience better for you and your partner.
You can be intimate with a vibrator.
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