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Does anyone else feel worried when you see a big number in the Lemmy notification inbox?
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Never look at my inbox. Not once.
this post was submitted on 30 Sep 2025
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I've never even looked, I use Boost.
lol naaaah :)
I haven't gotten to a point where I couldn't read all the messages I got yet
I do still freak out thinking i've been banned. Then i remember this isn't reddit and lemmy appreciates free speech. Then i look at the notifications and most of them are just people adding on to my comment and a good bit of upvotes.
It's nice to be in a place full of open minded people who are nerdy. Just where i want to be.
I dunno about you, but I had that as a left over from reddit, damn they're unnecessarily harsh over there.
It takes time to heal from that kind of trauma. Stay strong!
Thanks, lovely.
I didn't read anything but the title. When I see a lot in the inbox I mark all as read and never look back.
This is the way. Basically, the rule 1 of internet.
Always react based on the title, ignore any news articles or long explanations the post may have. Never click the news article, since we all know journalists are very good at conveying the core message in the title without implying anything even a little bit distorted. On top of that, the average Joes posting their random ideas are also professionals when it comes to crafting descriptive post titles.
I feel I need a few weeks to respond when I notice people dog piling me. It’s not common, but I don’t want to deal with all that negativity out there gate with people when I’m just looking to have a conversation.
Some people are looking to jump on you the second you even broach some topics which can be a bit frustrating.
Thankfully most of Lemmy has been so friendly, it’s other places that actually have gotten to me more.
Judging by some of the other comments here, there are surprisingly many people who try to have a civilized conversation in a places where things escalate very easily into a flame war. I prefer to avoid conversations that lead to that much negativity, which highlights yet another interesting usage difference. Because of that, I don't face anywhere near as much hostility as some other people. If I used Lemmy that way, dogpiling might occur more frequently, and I might approach it exactly the way you do—by neglecting those messages for a while.
Speaking of the friendly vibe, I think that's just one of the many benefits of being a small platform. If Lemmy got like 100x the number of users, that vibe would probably shift in a more negative direction.
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i get dopamine.