Microblog Memes

In my social circle in the UK everyone got married in their 30's and started having kids mid to late 30's. It's not a race to get married, but the biological clock is there for having kids.

Different people have different lives. My ex was a married mother at 17, I was married with no chance of children at 27, my brother in law is pushing his luck with how old his wife and him will be when they're ready to have kids. Sure my ex was too young, but I've known a 21 year old pregnant with her second that honestly seemed ready, though her husband could pick up some slack from how she told it.

To quote T Rex: Feelings are boring, kissing is awesome.

Unless you are totally ace or something.

As a 30yo unmarried asexual introvert, I also get totally thrown off when people ask if I'm married or have kids.

A few weeks ago somebody straight up asked me what my wife does for work and I had to process that for a second before I could even think of a response.

Honestly that’s a better deal. If I could just skip infancy and early childhood to parenting young adults, that would be ideal.

I just don’t manage my autism well enough for constant yelling and stickiness (I struggled with the phrasing on this, but I’m very sure about what I settled on- my symptoms are not so severe that I am inherently incapable of parenthood, but it would take enough out of me that I would turn into sally field in Mrs. Doubtfire). Being able to spoil them, and knowing that there’s a handover coming and they’re going home would make it a lot easier.

Of course, grandparents end up as primary caregivers not infrequently and there’s no guarantee that it’ll stay a more removed relationship

I knew someone who had great grandparents who were younger than my mom.
The person was like 3 years old at the time... But given that family, by now she might have kids.

You got married? But we're just kids... oh wait...
I definitely missed the starting gun, but now I'm too far behind so I'm just strolling along and taking paths where the race doesn't go.

The older I get the less I understand how people are able to even get to a position where they're able to have kids comfortably. I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another, not the mention the state of the greater world