What does "asking for trouble" mean to people? I would interpret it as "choosing to take an unnecessary risk". It's not a term I would use in this context, but it doesn't necessarily imply that being the source of the trouble is morally permissible.
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Here it is implied girls dressed a certain way is a prompt.
And it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to extrapolate “bad things happen to them” from trouble.
I want to take the opportunity to leave this here: https://sbaproject.org/what-were-you-wearing/
Yeah, I feel like this will get accused of being victim blaming, but it could just as easily be something analogous to leaving a stack of cash in plain view in a parked car. Morally fine, but that's not much comfort to me when my window gets smashed and the cash is taken.
Boys thinking it's a girl's fault are in for trouble.
Boys referring to themselves as trouble, accidentally
so if I, a man, dress in revealing clothing, girls will give me trouble?
This sounds promising.
I know right? Just as I started to feel comfortable shirtless too.
More interesting would be the trend over time.
I suspect this is down quite a bit from previous generations, say, 50 years ago.
As a woman with two neices in highschool I'm more interested in what people think right now.
I first read the last bit of the title as, "says third grade boys." I was really confused as to why they were polling third-graders to begin with. I thought girls still had icky cooties when I was that age.
That's explain why third of boys are forever single.
I'd love to see a fat, hairy dude much braver than I just walk down a busy urban street in booty shorts and maybe one of those like, half top half bra things women wear at the gym sometimes and record the responses for posterity.
I'm not saying this to say that anyone wearing anything deserves 'trouble'- this is fucking ridiculous and appalling - but depending on what you wear you CAN be asking for attention. It's why designer clothing exists.
I don't think there's anything wrong with dressing for attention. Be outrageous, be a queen, be flamboyant. You should be able to do this without fear of your safety.
But attention - that cuts both ways. It's just that men rarely, if ever, dress in a way that attracts attention.
Also, like, guys, come on. Women live in constant fear of sexual assault. While I do think the internet exaggerates this a little bit, if you LISTEN to literally any woman they'll school you on their Lived experiences anround this shit annd how fucking real it is. Even without that amplification this is a real fucking thing women deal with from the time they're like twelve fucking years old. No woman, anywhere, should ever expect any kind of trouble regardless of what she's wearing, and it's fucking appalling so that many of them need to do mental calculus on what they have to wear when they go somewhere on the likelihood of being fucking raped.