Goodnight all โค๏ธ
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Night night!
When YL talks about moving out next year there's a little part of me that gets excited inside.
More naked day drinking?
Oh yeah.
Pretty good day at work. Seems like my weekend actually recharged me.
So rare.
Yay. I feel the same after today's work too - also rare on a Monday ๐ค maybe in part because im back to a reasonable start time, 830 this week and next. Feels so much better
Fuck yeah man! Here's to a good start to the week :)
yay, good news ๐
Just about counting down the minutes this week. Holidays start as of Friday arvo, so I suspect this week is going to drag even harder than usual.
Uni starts again next week and I am curled up in the fetal position, frantically scrolling through Seek for any job. Ideally, I want to give something in my field of study a go, so I'm looking around at that. But there's the whole grass is greener thing. I shall sit with this uncertainty.
Part of me is considering starting a whole new bachelor degree, which isn't the most viable option right now. It is so tempting though to do a complete 180.
I get that uni is a stressful prospect, but starting is new degree is NOT an efficient stress release mechanism. I'm serious - you need to finish the one you're doing and THEN consider doing another. Waggles finger in rebuke.
Thanks. To make matters worse, I already have a degree that I haven't really used, and is pretty useless on its own.
Youโre studying education, arenโt you? Maybe you could get work as an education support worker at a school or something like that? You could probably contact schools directly to ask, and since youโre doing a related course that should help
Yes, I'm looking into it now! Cheers :)
I have found my f's, off to do some errands, bbs, luv u all ๐
Can you have a look for mine, please? I think they got left in the weekend.
Me too please, stuck at work for another hour and my CBF is sitting firmly on me.
I fibbed, I found no efs, i used to discipline to make myself do tasks.
maybe the ef I found was the long term goal.
Tomorrow is another day
good night everyone, sweet dreams ๐
Heading back down the beach today to tackle the unmentionable plant.
Had a few run ins w/ ol' girl over the last few days so time to give it a rest and let ol' boy decide what's next. Her weight has gone from 53kg -> 42kg over 5 weeks and I just cannot get that to turn around because of refusal. She has it all there, food, supplements, hubby is a doc, someone willing to cook whatever whenever. Makes me feel pretty bad that I just couldn't do it.
So pretty much looking at a PEG (feeding tube into tummy bypassing mouth / throat). Sounds bad but it's not really, the alternative is far worse.
Can't win them all.
I've been in that situation and sometimes you just go a feeding tube. Because the whole physically eat mechanism is just...rooted. It's not permanent (behold, my fat arse!) but I found during chemo that my whole desire and eating thing was just...no. And forcing it just made me feel sick.
All the hugsโฆ youโre doing an amazing job in a very difficult situation. Hopefully your mum will agree to a PEG or even NG tube, then when she feels better she might be able to eat more readily
I've got nothing to suggest that hasn't already been suggested by those more knowledgeable and experienced in this thread, but I feel for you mate ๐ซ Hoping things improve for you all.
Feels. Dis ain't good. Long distance hugs and give that plant a smacking.
It occurs to me that the ancient ad - Did you have a good weekend? No, forgot the aeroguard - has an entirely new meaning now. This pleases me.
oh gees
she must be so weak by now but still stubborn, ( does she even know what she wants and what she's protesting? )
so many hugs
She does, so i cook it, then she can't eat it or if she can she's no where eating near enough of it. I think of something else and she doesn't want it because she didn't ask for it.
I really needed her to not refuse supplements as that's the safety net.
Are there any appetite stimulants (ie medication) that might work? Or is it something else?
Iโm sorry you and she are going through this
There are but it's another layer of drugs that I'm not sure she'll be receptive to. I think the main problem is her mouth and pain. She has a bunch of mouth numbing things but... refusal.. grr.
Oh that explains it. If going for a tube a temporary nasogastric tube is an option thatโs less scary or permanent than the abdominal stoma route.
It depends but thin strained soups can possibly go through the tube as long as the food is going to the stomach for digestion. If directly into the small intestine probably not
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Oh that's tough. She won't eat but will consent to a PEG?
This is what really worries me. I suspect she won't. Ol' boys' field so I'm staying out of it. I think that conversation is happening today.
Its a horrible spot to be in. She sounds incredibly strong and complex, and you're all trapped in this cycle of trying to do the best for her.
You've got a great grasp of what's going on with her, and realising when you need to stap back to protect your relationship and yourself.
There's not going to be a single simple answer for her, she is driving the bus while ignoring her long term needs and the people around her trying to provide support and direction. A PEG may just be the answer though. She can get the nutrition she needs to function and heal, without all the other pressures around food intolerances and dietary intake. But they're not great.... they leak, they change what clothing you can wear because the surgeons always put them in the wrong spot on women, they need replacing and there's trauma and pain with that.... its a tough spot to be in. You're doing an incredible job, if no one else is telling you that, we are.
Sincerely thank you for the kind words and your experiences. They are extremely helpful.
That sounds really tough on you.
I hope things will turn around for you and get better.
Sky pretty
Sky pretty indeed!
and sun pretty.
okily dokily
time to make today's to do list
everything on the weekend to do list except buy and play Expedition 33 was โ Just too many tasks. I barely watched tv in about a month now ( tho I did listen to an audio book and have been listening to some science type pods )
I ordered a 1.5 kg box of sour feijoa gummies from NZ. They are quite addicting. ๐คค I will pack them into little bags of 15 count each and keep them upstairs in the pantry so I'll have to really want them. ...lol
I bought a large pack of Haribo lollies. The weird thing is they didn't make me nauseous like others do so I was hoeing them down by the handful. I'm good now for another 6 months I reckon.
The Source has vegan sour gummies, bring your own packaging and no weight limit.
it's terrible
I'm looking at my to do list and I have strong cbf's
Am finally tackling mine after many past CBFs, and am now kicking my past self for not keeping better tax records
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