Lode Runner (NES) might be okay. Not multiplayer, but it's got nice low-stakes puzzling gameplay.
Edutainment games are a bit few and far between on consoles - Donkey Kong Jr. Math springs to mind, but it's remarkably dry for a Nintendo game.
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Lode Runner (NES) might be okay. Not multiplayer, but it's got nice low-stakes puzzling gameplay.
Edutainment games are a bit few and far between on consoles - Donkey Kong Jr. Math springs to mind, but it's remarkably dry for a Nintendo game.
City Connection, Bugs Bunny's Crazy Castle. While neither are co-op my mom and took turns playing crazy castle on the nes when I was a kid and we beat it. Core memory right there.
I think Tetris or Doctor Mario had 2 player modes but I'm not sure.
Does Sonic Spinball on the Genesis have multiplayer?
Does Sonic Spinball on the Genesis have multiplayer?
Technically yes, but it's old arcade style "pass the controller, it is player 2's turn" - so not really.
It doesn't count as non-violent, but every kid I have played it with has thoroughly enjoyed the TMNT arcade game (as well as the Simpsons game that plays similarly. If you play with them you can essentially carry them through the game and they are just along for the ride, but feel like they are part of the team.
On the SNES, all of the games below have coop:
Pacman! I am not entirely sure, but I think it was an Atari 2600 where I really enjoyed this on at a similar age
The 2600 version is considered extremely bad. (It's not that bad but it's also not arcade-accurate)
There's a SNES version of Ms. Pac-Man which is extremely good, though.
I have not played it since the beginning oft the 90s, so... perhaps it was Mord enjoyable if you had no alternatives 😉
Lemmings for Amiga had a 2player split screen mode. Goal is to guide the most lemmings (yours and the other players) into your exit.
Are you committed to using the R.Pi1? You could emulate on your computer or phone (connected to the TV) to have way more options.
How adept is your little one with games? My 4 year old loves any and all Mario games. He plays sitting on my lap. I celebrate his successes and he passes me the controller when he gets to a section too difficult for him. This is mostly with Mario 3D land (3DS) these days.
Alley Cat Remeow Edition is a fan remake of Alley Cat, an arcade game, with up to 4 players, but it's PC (should still run on that hardware, i hope!)
Goofy Troop
It's single player, but too good to miss: "Richard Scary's Busy Town" (Genesis) is a fantastic open ended set of mini-games that are fun and accessibible to almost all skill levels of gamer.
Mega Bomberman (Megadrive) and Super Mega Bomberman (SNES) both have multiplayer mode where players can team up against bots, and the bots have adjustable difficulty (different bot skins have different AI).
Edit: Re violence - you blow each other and bot players up with bombs. Players that die disovle the way Pac-Man does.
I was going to recommend Bomberman. Super Bomberman 4 on SNES in particular is very fun, you can grab not only bombs but opponents too, and there are cool mounts with special powers. A bit chaotic in some arenas, but the classics are still there of you want them, and then when everyone gets better ot wants a quick laugh, you can go for the crazier ones.
Fun-N-Games (Genesis/Megadrive) is mostly single player, but has many mini games accessibile to young gamers.
A c64 emulator? Then basically anything, LOCO maybe?
Multiplayer is hard to find for the megadrive but some cutesy games,
You know what? Gyromite and Stack-Up, the games made to be played with R.O.B. You play the robot. I don't know many co-op multiplayer games on the NES. Maybe Chip & Dale, or Mario Bros. (not Super, the arcade game - though in 2025, I suggest Kaetekitta(sp?) Mario Bros., the rerelease). Bomberman might have cartoon violence, but I don't think it's going to scar a kid.
On SNES, there's Secret of Mana if you want to try for depth. I forget if any of the sports games let you go co-op. Pocky & Rocky (and other cute 'em ups) might be fun too.
Actually, general suggestion, cute 'em ups. Cotton, Twinbee, Fantasy Zone, Air Zonk, and many of the Parodius incarnations (obviously Sexy Parodius notwithstanding).
Wai Wai World 2 on Famicom emulator. Don't need to know any Japanese to play and it has great cartoony sprites.
Bubble Bobble (NES) is great two player, though you're competing
Buster Bros (PsOne, and probably others) probably one of my top 5 co-op games of all time
Micro Mages (retro despite being released in 2019 because it plays on original NES hardware) probably top co-op of all time for me
There's quite a bit more but have various degrees of violence so won't recommend those (Contra, Heavy Barrel, Silk Worm, Jackal, Life Force, etc)
My Famiclone childhood:
Mario Bros (the first one, with POW block in the middle.) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mario_Bros.
Battle City, known more by its pirated version name: Tank 1990 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_City
Super Dodge Ball!
Super Baseball Simulator (SNES) is competitive, but can be really chill if the adult player throws easy pitches, and the super powers are hilarious.
Ms. Pac-Man (Genesis) is fully co-op throughout, and has adjustable difficulty by choosing smaller maps.
Dashin' Desperados (Genesis/Mega Drive) is a racing platformer, where the adult can control the difficultly by slowing down or backtracking.
Edit: Cartoon violence - you can freeze each-other, light each-others shoes on fire, and stuff like that. And everyone recovers in cartoon timing, of course.
Kirby Super Star
Snake Rattle and roll! For the NES.
Nobody's gonna say hide and seek huh? 🤷