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Being a brown and skinny trans woman. (lemmy.zip)

submitted 4 days ago by wen0elle@lemmy.zip to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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You can call me Elle. I am three years into transition that began 2022. I have a love/hate relationship with being transgender but I become healthier everyday. I am latin mixed, I have the most stubborn fast metabolism. I like wearing cutesy ruffles, sweaters, skirts, tops, and I have 3a curly hair that cascades reaching below my neck. Hm, and what about other purely positive attributes about me? I enjoy spicy snacks, I kill for a quiet setting and peacefulness, when everyone is as is, cannot fail to pleasure me. I want to post about my body, intimacy, journey, and clothes, tips, and answer questions, and have fun on this platform.

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago

welcome, so glad to have you here!! ❤️

I also have curly hair and have to know your routine!

I use Curly Girl Method buy I'm always looking to learn and find tips to improve- recently I've been washing with a low-poo shampoo twice a week to get softer more voluminous curls (before I would only use a cowash and wash maybe once a week, but the hair would get too heavy and oily, and it has that drowned cocker spaniel look rather than that springy, properly fluffed / volumed look).

We have a lot of interests in common, so looking forward to seeing you around 🥰

[+] profgrumpypants@midwest.social 15 points 4 days ago* (last edited 40 minutes ago) (1 children)

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[–] wen0elle@lemmy.zip 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Being slim is definitely seen as a quality by some men indicating that a woman is more healthier, when really it can be the exact opposite. There are beautiful women who have calves like a speed-skater, like a DANCER, like a ballerina who could crush and crack the stage beneath her through the bottom of her slippers with elegance and are skinny. Within my range of experience, just very recently a few years ago I was caught in these moods and health problems that took a toll on my happiness, left a scar for quite some time. Throughout childhood I was as energetic as a child can be, I could drink a river and eat all the berries from the bush without feeling hungry. Now, being a sinewy woman with an old soul I can barely handle the symptoms of lower blood circulation, I feel very faint if I stand either quickly or normally to the point I want to rest on the floor. I try to make up my lost energy by eating more meat, walking when the atmosphere does not want to broil me alive, and more habichuelas, more fiber, give me the corn, broccoli, and legumes! Aside from my current body weight, I wouldn't mind putting on 30 pounds and not having a flat chest, but I only say that because currently being skinny doesn't work wonders for me.

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[–] wen0elle@lemmy.zip 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My Honduran mother cannot stop cooking beans every chance she gets! My grandmother loves cooking these easy tortillas de arina, so simple it's so wholesome. I have been thinking of doing 30 minutes of yoga everyday, I used to watch those tutorials by the channel, 'Blogilates', a year ago, didn't work out since waking up every morning was like seeing if I was dead or alive, though not so tragic the way I put it! I've only been 24 days on estradiol, 2mg everyday was recommended. When showering I feel like I'm carrying a traveler's backpack, that's when my symptoms enhance tremendously even with the window open and letting the water steam escape the bathroom. I hope it ends soon, I've been eating much better after 1-2 years of being 'vegetarian', which was more of me not wanting to eat anything out of being depressed. The better I feel each day I live from the small things [ like that song ] the more I love myself. In all, thank you for commenting, I really enjoyed reading yours and appreciated the good you called me!

[–] MsPenguinette@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago

Skinny goes with time. Been on HRT 15 years and that extra few each years has been adding up

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Welcome!

We have the same hair!

[–] wen0elle@lemmy.zip 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm assuming you're aware about THE STRUGGLE, the ENTANGLEMENT, of curly hair, even when 3a-3b I still cannot bear the swallowing feeling of slower blood circulation aching my entire body when I have to brush upside down in the shower. If only there was a way to wake up and see loose, vibrant and spirals that flow curls to bloom throughout thunder... of which I mean the frizz nemesis.

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yep! Head tilted in the shower, trying not to fall over and break my neck! Honestly though, I struggle with loving my hair. I know I should, but I find dealing with the curls such an endless task, it's hard not to be resentful

My hair

[–] dangling_cat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Ada face reveal! You are so pretty :3 love the purple

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

That's also my face in my lemmy/piefed profile pic, and there's a whole video on peertube!

But, I don't have the purple anymore. I just used that photo because it was a good photo of my hair, where I was controlling the frizz, rather than the other way around :P

[–] sprite0@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

A pleasure to meet you!

[–] mossy_@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

your hair is so close to my sister's! I'm a little jealous, mine curls but doesn't have that nice volume so I keep it short. gorgeous pic.