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"What is the purpose of this meeting and why do I need to be included" is a perfectly polite series of words to use. The wording matters far less than the tone of voice.
I vastly prefer clear and direct questions over the reply that sounds passive aggressive from the very beginning.
I wouldn’t say “perfectly” polite, but it’s definitely not offensive.
The response in the OP definitely doesn’t need further tonal clarification, though. It’s tough for anyone to classify that response as hostile.
I think you underestimate how thin the skin of the professional managerial class is. It's not about the tone of voice it's about the directness and how that's facilitating "conflict".
I do understand and it does not matter how you phrase it for those types of people. Pretending that it could have been said the 'right' way is a waste of time because, as you said, they consider even asking to be facilitating conflict.
There are also good managers out there, they just aren't as memorable as the ones who make everything into drama. The good ones also tend to be driven to other jobs because of the jerk managers...
"why do I need to be included" sounds a bit harsh and could be met with "because I said so". instead maybe try something along the lines of "how will this meeting benefit my work?" or "how might I contribute?"
There's one weekly meeting that I'm in where my only contribution is to notice when we're out of stuff to discuss but no one is wrapping up. I unmute and ask, "Ok, so can we wrap?"
I don't understand why six other people just sit there saying nothing without ending it. I've got other shit to do. Don't they?
They are all afraid the manager will perceive them negatively for it, also why doesn't your team lead / manager take the call about wrapping up the meeting
Sounds like they are talking in buzzwords.
Corporate buzzwords are cargo cult behavior. Jargon and industry-specific terms can be helpful for accurately communicating precise or nuanced ideas, but generic buzzwords are just people who try to sound professional or smart by mimicking the people they've seen in those roles.
Just asking "what's my role in the meeting" is a simple way to get to the point, and isn't impolite or unprofessional.
Sure, but the overall intent holds true. Not just in professional settings, it's important to have the skill to reframe a negative comment into a positive one.
This is probably what I would say:
It sounds like you've got everything you need for the meeting. Would it still make sense for me to attend?
If that's the case, then I think I'd be more useful handling some other tasks in the meantime. Please keep me updated on the outcome of the meeting
Such corpo bullshit, do it the Scandinavian way, I don't think this meeting is for me, have a good meeting though. Done and done
Don't you want to empower the business and yourself by attending the meetings here? Why complicate the process by excluding yourself from the conversation.
Even saying that made me feel sick.
Fluent in corporate speech 101.
Seriously is there a class I can take, because it's like I'm speaking an alternate language at work and no one there understands what I'm saying
You are asking the wrong dude here. I failed at corporate speech, never understood their art of assimilation. It is all about not offending anyone, overstepping, never throwing anyone under the bus, especially higher management, and yet dodging bullets coming your way. It is also the biggest waste of time, usually. Got to give the upper management, the glorified babysitters, something to do.
I hate corpo bs speak. Makes me wish I was German or something.
Oh, unfortunately we have that here, too.
Depends also if they include you so they don’t make dumb decisions. If they are capable of doing stuff on their own great. If they are habitually doing shit without asking you even just a question (and make every little thing into a meeting which is about just managing their decision making) it’s kind of always mandatory just to be there to save them from themselves and from taking decisions away from you.
I don’t know why it’s so hard to say ‘hey can we just grab you for a moment’ instead of and either or hour long meeting making you sit through it just to get to you about something either mildly so unimportant you didnt need you or they destroy the project
Talk to your manager.
Shortly after I was hired, my manager told me I should feel free to decline any meeting that didn't seem useful, or that if it was preventing me from getting "real" work done.
Or just ask the person organizing the meeting.
"I saw you added me to a meeting tomorrow. Can you provide a bit of context so I can come prepared?"
The first way sounds polite enough for me.
do you need my presence here
Sounds like you were summoned by ouija board.