Selfhosted

I read your post last night, thought I'd reply this morning and am disappointed in the replies you've already had. So you've got issues with your self hosting, and it annoys people you haven't figured out the solution?!? Odd.

Anyway, well done on recommending Runtipi as I've never heard of it and looks interesting. I'm on the look out for things to recommend to people, and that looks good.

As for what else there is, there was a thread here this week asking similar, and lots got mentioned in there. I'm too lazy to find the link, but dig about on the 1st page. Most have already been repeated in here already.

I think self hosting is a journey, where you learn as you go. It's all part of the fun of it. And perhaps using a platform that has a healthy amount of solutions already posted is the key for you rather than focussing on a one-click interface. I myself use Unraid, and that community is full of Q&A for every type of user.

Honestly?

Dockge

Set it up according to the dev's recommendations (and Docker, of course), then you can configure pretty much any application that uses Docker and docker-compose within Dockge. It's far simpler than Portainer, and runs within Docker's limitations instead of yoloing your configs in random locations (like Portainer does). Plus it's free, and made by the same dev as Uptime Kuma.

I don't like the phrase "one click" because it's never really literally only one click, and whenever it's even close to that there's just too much stuff going on in the background that a) requires tons of work to code, b) is fragile, c) can never account for all use case etc etc etc

With that in mind I recently installed Debian Stable on my VPS, chose "Web server" during installation, and voilá: it serves!

Cloudron is similar to yunohost but its a paid service so things are a bit more polished and up to date

CasaOS is like a slimmed down cosmos by the looks of it

I'm all in on Cosmos Cloud, been very happy with it

diet pi counts right? most of the software in their managed repo is a straightforward install and largely preconfigured for daily use. It was my first server OS and im very fond of it

apt/dnf

People seem to really like 1Panel.

Right now im using runtipi for Kavita (komga wasnt finding my folder)and Kapowarr, to get comics, kavita and komga let you make a repo you can use from your phone/tablet (mihon app extension) to read your comics. (and not deal with losing them when sites go down since its off your own server)

Main reason I did this instead of just downloading to my microsd on my tablet was I often want to find stuff to read on my phone and then read them off my tablet, had no easy way to do it, would make a list and then search them all again. Now I just open kapowarr on my phone and add whatever I want, its automatically searched/downloaded and then kavita checks that folder. Mihon has a kavita (and komga, but runtipis didnt work) extension that lets you use your server as a repo so it automatically becomes available on my tablet later when I want to read it.

This took 15 minutes to setup, each one installed in 30 seconds, wondering if any other panel/manager thing has these 3 available as one click installs? Just want to know my options if any others exist.

WireGuard?

Just invest the five minutes to read the docker compose instructions.
It aint that hard.

In regards to komga, it wouldnt show up in logs becuase it wasnt an error, got a reply on discord, and I needed to add a custom config,took 2 minutes, didn't know that was the issue since I'd never done it before. Looked in the docker compose and whoever set up the app did it wrong and didn't mount the media volume like every other apps docker compose did. (you are supposed to for runtipi apps)