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[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 33 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Here is the gold standard response for when someone compliments you:

Thank you.

If you want to get really fancy, try this:

Thank you! I appreciate the compliment.

(Added bonus: smile 😊)

It’s like new shoes; sure it’s a little uncomfortable at first, but once you get used to them, it will feel like second nature.

[–] hazl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Them: I like your shoes.

Me: Thank you!

Brain: That was really selfish of you to not notice and compliment them on something first. Pretty entitled of you to just accept their compliment like you know you deserve it. Do you even think of anyone other than yourself? You are such a self–absorbed attention whore and they know that now.

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Here’s the trick: they went out on a limb and complimented you. They didn’t have to do that. Maybe they were nervous, or worried you’d reject them or laugh at them. Instead, you validated their compliment. You probably in turn made their day. There’s nothing selfish about that. Go get yourself a gummy, and stop overthinking things. As Freud once said, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.”

[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 weeks ago

How did you get my inner thoughts??

[–] flambonkscious@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 weeks ago

I came here to say a similar thing but you elaborated on it perfectly. Thanks for the instruction and encouragement!

[–] thenextguy@lemmy.world 20 points 2 weeks ago

Do I enjoy asking myself questions and then answering them? Yes.

[–] Zapados@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

This is why I like backhanded compliments.

[–] Septimaeus@infosec.pub 4 points 2 weeks ago

Most of the time a backhanded compliment is actually an insult that only sounds like a compliment

But the inverse, a true compliment in the form of an insult, is one of my favorite games to play with friends

[–] ironhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Rooty@lemmy.world -3 points 2 weeks ago

Why the hell are people bragging about their dysfunction on social media? STFU and go to therapy.