Wild thing is I am white, cis and basically hetero...

...and I don't see how anyone can not take this all seriously.

Lots of non white, non hetero talking heads on major channels that don't seem to care either.

A lot of it is just the lucky few that made the right connection, or were born into wealth, who never had any life destroying tragedy ruin their career, who had reserve finances or other contacts or safety nets to rely on...

Ive met loads if people like that. They'll give you all the emotional support in the world, until either disagree with them about nearly anything somewhat serious, or if you ask for help that might actually cost them some time or money.

There's programs for that! I donate to a charity that... yeah, its all underfunded, extremely difficult to apply to and pass.

Then they get angry because in their head theyre a good person, but this grates upon their fundamental belief in a meritocratic society, causes cognitive dissonance.

Survivorship bias is deadly.