Okay, but, speaking as a woman, we try to explain these issues nicely, with gentle terminology and a big helping of ‘not all of you, but some of you…’ and we get ignored, dismissed, belittled, or flat-out gaslit.

ok so, as a result of the bear debate, i wouldn't exactly say it was all roses and sunshine over there, probably a thunderstorm and bristles more like.

I think most people want the statement laid out very literally in front of them. Usually being pretty fucking obtuse about shit, tends to get peoples attention. Sitting in a corner and vaguely looking in the direction of someone isn't going to.

maybe i'm just really fucking autistic or something, but if that shit doesn't work, i wouldn't do it. I'd click into a thread titled "men raping women is a problem" and see what's going on, and chances are, it's going to be more civil than the bear incident.

i'd be up for just fucking talking about it. I'm sure a number of other people would as well. You aren't going to appease everyone, that's impossible, you just need to appease the majority. And frankly, anybody who is reading about "hey uhm, rape bad, no do?" and gets fucking pissed off about it? They're probably not a good person to be honest.

genuinely, i just think straight up, open conversation about it. People can't play nice? Don't let em, i guess? there are a few options there. I'm not an admin/mod, so don't ask me lol.