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Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was
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this post was submitted on 13 May 2024
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My proverbial beef isn't the pointing out of how manny men are predators and that the risksfor women are non-zero; my problem more specifically is that the meme stacks handily on top of the already vexing racial profiling I deal with as a black man who's had false allegations leveled in the past and lost jobs because of the weaponization of this fear. I have already spent damn near a half century being presumed some kind of feral Mandingo rape beast purely for existing while black. The presumption of interest in all of these women like a scene out of Kentucky Fried Movie gets really old and they get super vindictive when rejected.
Yeah that’s what I found the most surprising. Even after you understand what women really mean in this thought experiment, it’s just textbook discrimination and no different than targeting certain races as a cop.
I thought as a society we all agreed that was bad but apparently it’s okay if the victims are men.
So this thought experiment does reveal sexism, the sexism against men.
It doesn't matter how much it upsets you, "hurting your feelings" will always be safer than "being raped and murdered".
Maybe it's time to shake off the insecurity and accept that if you're not doing anything wrong then you're not who women are talking about.
It’s not about upsetting me, it’s about making a judgment of an individual based on the demographic, which I thought we collectively decided was wrong.
If someone walks past a group of minorities and feels unsafe, that’s fine as humans are emotional creatures. But if someone makes a decision based on the above logic, that would be classified as discrimination. Same way mostly searching minorities at the airport is discrimination.
The medical history of abuse of black people in America is largely fueled by the nonsense that 'black people feel less pain'. It's incredibly fucked up. Horrible shit was done based on these stereotypes.
Same logic applies when women abuse men. 'men feel less pain/are stronger. Abuse against men is just the 'price we should pay for our privilege' etc. etc.
Of course I'm not. I just think the analogy is just incredibly overstated. Bears are in fact all fairly dangerous. Most men just aren't
How do you know all bears are dangerous? Maybe there's one that just wants to be friends? You should politely treat all bears as friendly so that you don't hurt that bears feelings.
My feelings are far less of a concern than my personal safety. The distance between 'she was asking for it, dressed like that' and 'those n-bombs are all rapists, if a woman claims assault for any reason it's guaranteed he did it' ain't as far apart as you seem to think.
I dunno 'bout you, but I'm sure as fuck not looking to be the next Exonerated Five example. And more importantly, being as I'm inot a trigger-happy stand-your-ground state and in the same Metropolitan area where Amber Guyger feared for her life after going into the wrong fucking apartment, I sure as hell don't trust things to be made right or go smoothly the second white woman tears are involved.
Since you're replying to a 7 month old comment, I'm guessing your true opinions are even more damaged than the ones you've stated here.
I would I'd it didn't literally cost me jobs, plural. I've dealt with enough societal racial profiling and harassment, I don't need it compounding with my gender to utterly shit on my life when I'm minding my own damn business.
And that applies just as much for women minding THEIR OWN damn business. Leave people be!
I feel for you, the casual racism and sexism against black men is pretty crazy. Used to work with a guy that wore a suit every day in a very casual office, because women wouldn't get on the elevator with him otherwise.
Yep. It's incredibly fucked up to think how prevalent that 1920s horseshit still is in many people's minds 100 years later.
People still seem to think Birth of a Nation is a documentary.
This was moving to read. It’s a fucked up situation, thank you for sharing.