Friend, I just read your whole post. Keep in mind that your mental health should be more important to you than (♥) anything else!

May I suggest just giving yourself enough leeway to keep the mental capacity to shrug of random internet people? We - your NPCs - should never be as important in regards to your own health!

What you're describing sounds to me way different though - you only share the same symptoms! I get the feeling that you strife for perfection in how others perceive you. OP on the other hand is a tuna sandwich dick.

Please feel appreciated this day for the thoughts you make and the effort you put in no matter what the internet points tell you.