39
submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone

I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[-] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago

Some advice on waiting to commit: don't wait to figure out your gender to do X; wait until you're confident you want to / would benefit from doing X to do X, regardless of if you've figured out your gender. And if the risk is low, maybe just try it anyway.

I waited a while to start HRT because I was worried I might not really be a girl, and I'm actually still unsure. But that's not the right question, the question I should've been asking was if I thought it'd help me vs the risk of being wrong, and I had known for a long time it would almost certainly be a huge net positive. I started 3 months ago and my only regret is not trying sooner, especially since I knew back then too.

Basically, don't gatekeep yourself behind gender.

[-] Semivir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago

Oh thank you for this! I definitely want to actively explore further, and I don't really think of it as gatekeeping myself behind the right label.

It's mostly me being conscious and afraid of making decisions that have a lasting impact, like coming out (even if it's just about the fact that I'm figuring things out). Physical changes that can't easily be reversed are still a ways away.

But I will try to take your advice to heart and allow myself to take some steps. There's always the option of chickening out, right?

this post was submitted on 10 Apr 2024
39 points (100.0% liked)

Trans

755 readers
22 users here now

General trans community.

Rules:

  1. Follow all blahaj.zone rules

  2. All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.

  3. Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.

Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on

founded 9 months ago
MODERATORS