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submitted 7 months ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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[-] whereisk@lemmy.world 28 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Exactly: do the task, feel either nothing or like a fraud depending on if it meets your self-imposed ludicrous standard.

[-] T156@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago

Or find all the flaws after the fact, and feel bad for not doing a perfect job.

[-] notabot@lemm.ee 5 points 7 months ago

You'll never get it perfect, so I found it useful to reframe it as aiming to get as close as possible to perfect then giving yourself a fair critique so you kniw how to get closer next time. It's sort of Zeno's perfection paradox. You get closer each time, but never actually get there.

[-] whereisk@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

Yeah. That's the source of suffering. At some point your bar for good enough is so high nothing brings you joy and all your past "accomplishments" bring you pain.

[-] notabot@lemm.ee 1 points 7 months ago

I can't say that I feel my past accomplishments bring me pain, each was as well done as I knew how, and brought me new knowledge, which is quite rewarding. The bar doesn't raise beyond reach either, as you already know how to go as far as you have, and you've hopefully learnt a little more. You're not always going to achieve your best results, but that's where critiquing your performance comes in. You can inevitably learn something from it.