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I'm tired of always needing to prove my inteligence (lemmy.world)
submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by Persen@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world
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Yesterday I was at a health evaluation for a driver's license. Everything went well with my physical health, but at questioning, my autism was bought up. I was accused of needing help with learning in primary school (despite of my grades, that were usually B (I know, I'm lazy)) and now I need a psychological evaluation.

When I started high school, most professors infantalized me, but later stopped after I proved myself (ok, some didn't stop, like the slovene teacher and the sport teacher/coach).

When I meet someone new, they always think I am intelectually disabled, before proving otherwise...

Why is this happening?

Edit: It means a lot to talk to people who support me trough this (even if only on the internet). I took a psychological evaluation today. It included an iq test like form (easy, but didn't finish the whole paper), questionairs and some cordination tests (that in my opinion I was bad at). Just waiting to get the results. Hopefully I'll pass, but I can't really do anything if I don't, can just maybe try somewhere else in the EU (i think).

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[-] dbilitated@aussie.zone 22 points 6 months ago

because people look for indicators they recognise to assess intelligence and you don't fit their mental model as easily.

you could be cynical and say much of that presentation is manipulated and not a reliable indicator of intelligence, it's just that intelligent people are usually better at controlling their signals - unless they have difficulties with social nuances like us. you could also just shug and say you're different and they don't get it for a while, and that's fine too.

everyone is lazy and uses shortcuts to interpret a complex world. when you're different the shortcuts don't work and people make mistakes. they're also being lazy 🦥

[-] Persen@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Yes, that seems logical. I also sometimes think, that people, that talk a lot and don't use comunication to present information are stupid, but I feel like I'm often right.

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