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Is texting not a conversation, or is it just me?
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I remember this being covered in a college engineering class. It's an issue of synchronous vs asynchronous communication. In person, phone call, instant messaging are all synchronous with an expectation of a timely response. Email and text are asynchronous with an expectation of inconsistent and/or delayed response.
I know how I feel about a situation is often dictated by my expectations. Hopefully this is a useful mental model.
I believe that this is the key. Some people consider a text message syncronous and other asyncronous. I remember using text as some evolution of MSN messenger, and my friends did as well, so it was syncronous, but as time has passed and I'm more bussy, i now see it more like email, so asyncronous.
There are still times where both individuals are online and the asyncronous texting becomes syncronous, but it has become more the exception than the rule.