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What is the exact meaning of a misogynist person?
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I would venture to say that if your father thinks his wife should do all the house work because she is a woman, then that is, in fact, misogyny (he is not actually respecting her in this case).
If he thinks she should do all the housework because they've talked and she really is happier in the role of homemaker and has chosen that as her life path while he has chosen to work a job that pays well enough to enable that, well then in that case it isn't necessarily misogyny. But that is just about the only case in which it isn't, including if she accepted being the homemaker but didn't or wouldn't have chosen it over a career if that seemed more feasible.
Because the only thing that makes a wife different from a husband is the fact that she's a woman. There is nothing inherently "womanly" or "wifely" about housework, and expecting her to do it all must involve thinking there is: an unjustified prejudice exclusively reserved for women. I.e. misogyny.
When gender roles put an undue and unwanted burden on women, when they become a rule, that is misogyny. If they were putting an extra, unwanted burden on men it would be misandry, but that is a much less used term simply because it's so much less prevalent.
No he doesn't...
Who said hate? What I said is that it's a lack of respect
I'm getting the idea that you don't understand respect very well...
That contradicts what you said earlier
I’m getting the idea that you don’t understand respect very well…
Just did
You used the word hate.
All wives in all relationships ever? So does that mean your dad thinks all men live in filth? Do gay men all unanimously hire house cleaners? Are gay women the only people he thinks deserve equitable labor division in the home?
That's a funny kind of "respect". I think most people share a different definition of it.
Daddy was wrong.
But, for the record, he is wrong.
I’m pleasantly surprised.
The general consensus of people in this thread, plus my assessment of the comments that you have not deleted, is that you have been acting defensive and argumentative when you encounter posts that challenge you or disagree with you. Due to this, I figured you would not react well to me doubling down on telling you that your father’s opinion is wrong. I was pleasantly surprised that you responded in agreement.
You seem to be engaging with me in good faith, so I will tell you that I disagree. In my opinion, this thread has not gone well for you because your defensiveness and attempt to control the narrative by deleting comments has made it seem like you are unwilling to accept the feedback that you made this post to ask for. Even your wording in your original post tries to control the outcome of the responses you get by narrowly interpreting misogyny.
You could have simply asked the question, absorbed the feedback, and moved on. I disagreed with some of the name calling that has been thrown your way, but that doesn’t excuse your behavior either.
Perhaps I’m wrong, but you’ve given me the impression that you are probably young (I’m guessing under 25) and rather ignorant when it comes to the inaccuracies of gender stereotypes. I honestly believe if you listened more and argued less, you would learn some valuable things and get less negative feedback from people online.
One thing is for sure—you’ve made quite a splash in your first 13 days with this Lemmy account, and it doesn’t seem to be in a good way. Maybe you should reflect on that rather than dodge responsibility for it by blaming downvote bias.
I’ve already stated my opinion, and you are entitled to yours. All I can say is that I think you should give some thought to how your choices and words may have contributed to the reaction you got, regardless of whether or not you think it was justified.
This type of reaction doesn’t happen to most Lemmy users.