But was he being hateful for simply saying them? He wasn't calling anyone hateful things, calling for anything to be banned, calling for anyone to have rights taken away. He was making meta-commentary on how discussion of this stuff or anything adjacent to it is forbidden and tend to get conversation just completely shut down.

Like this shit is some sort of high grade SCP style cognito-hazard.

I can't see how anyone can expect to make inroads against these beliefs if they aren't willing to engage with the people who hold them as if they're a reasonable person with some bad takes (until they prove themselves otherwise). I think most people have just given up and just lump people who say shit like this in with the legitimately hateful, earned or not.

I get that most of us don't have the energy for trying to talk people out of harmful beliefs and it's easier to just cut things off at the pass to be safe, but I fear the proliferation of this sort of action is eliminating opportunities to bridge these idealogical gaps.

Surely you don't slash the tires of every car you see with some dumbass Trump bumper sticker right? Run every NRA bumper sticker off the road? You ignore it, at most you glare and get on with your life. Maybe you make a mental note of who has those stickers to avoid them.

I fully respect the admins/mods rights to say "we aren't having this discussion here", your rights to speak against that sort of post and block it, etc. No one should have to interact with shit they don't want to, or give platform to shit they don't want to.

I just get so tired of this argument that if you say shit that bad people have said then you're a bad person, instead of maybe just someone otherwise reasonable with some shit beliefs (until proven otherwise).

If that's a wrong take, some sort of "hateful person in the closet" statement, then do what you need I guess. I'm just tired man.