Seriously, what is with women's fashion these days? Any other 30-somethings lurking? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by ClarissaXDarjeeling@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

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Maybe this is everyone's experience as they get older, falling out of fashion and balking at the latest trends.

BUT. I really think there's something uniquely terrible about this moment in (clothing) history.

I can appreciate elements of fashion from pretty much every era...from jazz age glam to swinging cocktail dresses and just about everything from the set of Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, to the pencil skirts and cat-eye makeup of the 60s, to 80s punk and 90s heroin chic, to the dELiA's catalogues of my coming-of-age and the midriffs of the 2000s.

But these days I dread shopping. Why are shirts cut like pillowcases and dresses cut like potato sacks? What's the point of a sweater knit so loosely the wind blows right through, or a neck cut so wide the sleeves fall down your shoulders? Speaking of, why are the shoulders/armpits in a women's "small" cardigan roomy enough for the Rock?

It all seems so frumpy, and not even functional. Aren't clothes meant to accentuate the body, rather than hide it? How are you other non-Gen Z women adapting to current fashion?

P.S. I will admit that having higher rise jeans is nice. It took me a while to get on board, but now I can see how the low rise skinny jean gave us all chicken legs ;)

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[-] TeaHands@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago

I kinda like it actually. Disclaimer to go with that though is that I knit and crochet and sew my own clothes so if there's something I can't find in a shop I can make it, and I can also do basic alterations.

High-waisted is life for us big-hipped ladies. Wide-necked boxy-cut layering pieces speak to my casual goth heart. Baggy jeans take me back to my teens and are a welcome relief from the skinny jean tyranny that lasted up until a few years ago. Of all the cool things I've learned how to sew, my absolute favourite is a "potato sack" dress that I cinch in at the waist with a matching belt and go about my day in being comfy af.

Now if we could just get the pocket situation sorted out.

[-] ClarissaXDarjeeling@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It took me years, but I finally started to appreciate high-waisted jeans after it dawned on me...oh, you can tuck IN the shirt. (I also have wide hips, but most importantly a nickel sensitivity. So getting this layer of fabric between my belly and the top button was a game changer! And allowed for more comfortable sitting haha.)

It's interesting that you mention sewing. I'm not very crafty, but maybe I could find a tailor/seamstress to make the simple kind of summer dress that I find flattering & comfy: a knee-length cylinder of fabric, somewhat form-fitting but not bandage/bodycon-level slinky, with basic straps rather than boho pouf sleeves or fringe or whimsical off-the-shoulder cuts.

P.S. I was also kind of a goth in HS, but less baggy goth and more Shirley Manson/Faith the Vampire Slayer inspired, with a bit of skapunk influence from my peer group. But I'm too lazy to accessorize these days ;) So at home it's 90% athleisure, and in the office it's the traditional business (casual) wardrobe I established ~10 years ago. Only, that's starting to feel too formal, and I'm trying to reclaim an actual sense of style.

[-] TeaHands@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah I was more the high effort goth type back in the day but am way too lazy for that now. I got to where you are now, looking at my uninspiring wardrobe full of things you could wear to work, the occasional unobjectionable dress for a night out, and plain jeans and vest tops and I just thought enough is enough.

Literally, as someone who knows nothing about fashion, sat down with my laptop and spent a night searching for the words for different styles so I could articulate my thoughts. Picked things I liked and didn't. Let myself judge based on what felt "me" rather than what felt my age (am nearly 40). Apparently I gravitate to something called "dark bohemian", which does check out but I'd never heard the actual term before!

I've since defined my style goal as "casual witch on a cruise ship" and am rolling with that as my guide for everything that gets made or bought.