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Smell kinks are rarely talked about but I think everyone has them without realising to a certain extent. It's just generally frowned upon to talk about being turned on by smells because there's no consent or control in what smell a person is giving off or in what nearby people do with that smell. It makes people feel vulnerable because of the lack of control.
There isn't much more consent or control about appearance either yet peoples get turned on by people's appearance all the time. ๐ค
Fair, I guess it's entirely just about normalisation vs not? I wonder if it's ever been not-weird to discuss how someone smells in a "phwoar she's a looker"
kind of way. "Phwoar she's a smeller" conjures an entirely different emotion in me.
Just a supposition but...
I'd say it probably has something to do with the fact that sight is our "primary" sense, the one we rely on and pay attention to the most, whereas smell, we don't really pay attention to it on a day to day basis, except in the presence of a very strong smell good or bad.
It reflect on our vocabulary too, we have a lot of words to describe extensively and exactly what we see (color, shade, texture, shape, etc...) but very little words to describe what we smell.
Maybe it's different for blind peoples? Or species with a strong sense of smell?
Oooo this would be really interesting to get perspective on but it's gonna be super weird trying to ask.
Conversely though, I think it's actually kinda nice to be told you have really pleasant smells, at least between intimate partners. They're probably gonna smiff ya anyway, so it's nice to know they enjoy it? Kinda thing
It's also one of the things you remember very strongly. I like stealing partner's tops/jumpers because when you miss them you still have their smell.
Found the lib /s
I genuinely don't think the perfume, deodorant and aftershave industries would ever be as large as they are if this weren't at least partially true.
I think this is a good opportunity to remind people:
I should notice your perfume/cologne if I'm close enough to kiss you and certainly not just because I happen to be in the same room.
you'll hate oud
Probably not, no.
People from the Mediterranean in shambles rn