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I know how it feels. I recently quit my job because I didn't feel safe being out as a trans woman there and now I can be myself full-time (although I don't have a job anymore lol). I can say that you will probably always be depressed being someone you're not and having two identities is really tiring.
It is more than clothes though. It is also pronouns and body shape and etc. I think the reason you might have hated shopping before is because you were shopping for men's stuff and now you are looking at women's stuff which you like.
If you live somewhere where it is safe to be out as a transwoman then I'd say do it (when you are ready), random people in public care a lot less than you think they would. I'm going to guess that you are French based on you referring to dresses as robes (unless you actually mean robes then idk) in which case you should be ok to be out in public but if you aren't in a safe place, try looking for ways to get out, I know it's not easy but it isn't impossible either.
Ty VM for your message.
I consider how it will be at work if I consider one day an coming out. And if I will have to leave.
But that isn't an concern for me I guess. You totally speak to me here. Btw I hope u will find another one fast, or not but have money to live well ! ^^
For the coming out, Bravo (French as you thought) ! Its safe where I'm , I've just not the strenght to do an coming out. I don't want to do it too. I'm scared I guess.
I've never considered your point of view for the shopping. I'm anti consumers (hate my self because I'm buying stuff theses times ofc XD). For me, its when I see this, I just want to be in girl mode, be dressed as one, " feel like one" without controlling gestures etc. But I'm in man mode when I fell this. I want to be in the euphorya at the moment, but I can't because not at home... But that's clearly make sense and give me something to think.
Ty again for your share
Remember - gender dysphoria is a legitimate illness. That means whatever you're buying is medicine, so it doesn't count as consumerism. 😉 ❤️
Ah ah ty very much. This point of view can help me a lot ^^"