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Trying to cut back on the booze for my health but damn I'm realizing I have a hard time getting to bed without something in my system. A few nights I've had to just say fuck it and grab a few Modelo tall boys at the gas station just to shut up my own brain long enough to get to sleep.

Thing is once I do get to sleep I sleep way better but that's after hours of laying in bed trying to let myself drift off.

I've tried weed but I'm one of those people where there's a 50/50 chance weed will actually make it worse.

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[–] SoulKaribou@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I learned to do 4-4-4-4 breathing before sleeping. Usually 5 mins is enough, but it can be extended to 15mins. It helps to clear your stress/anxiety, and relax. Set a timer, lay flat in bed, then :

4 seconds inhale

4 seconds hold

4 seconds exhale

4 seconds hold

Repeat until the timer is expired.

Don't force the breathing, you don't need to blow all your air/fill the lungs, you would feel light headed and out of breath. Just gentle breathing through the nose is enough. If it helps, you can also place a hand on your abdomen while doing this. The first time is not that easy, but it becomes routine quite fast.