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Buddy, you were close to making a good point, but this is not a tactful way to say what you're trying to say. This is victim blaming.
We should teach boys not to be rapists.
Teaching girls how to spot a rapist is not a bad thing either, as long as teaching boys not to be rapists is still the priority.
But women who date rapist men are not "part of the problem", they are often the victims of rape. They are the victims, and you are directing blame at them. Fuck off with that toxic shit.
You're missing the point, the #notallmen stuff is referring to wider culture, and how people enable it. This is outside of individual perpetrators and victims, so you can't narrow the focus on just that.
Yes men that participate in toxic masculinity further this environment.
But also, women that participate in toxic masculinity also enable it, and should also be part of the conversation.
This is not victim blaming in any way shape or form
We live in a patriarchal society that hurts both genders in different ways.
It’s still not women’s fault when they are raped by men. It’s those men’s faults.