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i am turning 20 this year and i have never felt so much mental anguish and fear in my life before. I have researched it and apparently the early 20s is harsh because of the combination of figuring out your life way more independently than ever before and internal challenges (onset of schizophrenia, personality disorders etc.) I have never hated people more than I do now and I’m scaring myself sometimes.

Who has survived this period pelase tell me what to do I’m Scared

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[–] cfgaussian@lemmygrad.ml 23 points 5 days ago

One thing you learn in your 20s is to stop caring so much what other people think and stop judging yourself according to other people's standards. This has made me now in my mid 30s much more of a relaxed, calm and overall balanced person, able to prioritize what is important and shrug off what really, at the end of the day, is not all that important at all. This is just something that you learn as you grow as a person, as you hopefully acquire the skills to be a functional adult. Most of all you should not expect to have figured all of this out in your early 20s already. You are only just starting and you need to be patient and forgiving with yourself as you make mistakes.