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People who hate on their spouses, bragging when they're "in the dog house". Divorces exist, Brent, you don't have to stay married to a person you hate.
In a similar vein, people who comment about work being a "break from the family". I had my first kid a year or so ago and one person at my new job said how it must be nice to "get away for awhile".
I actually said "no, I love my family and enjoy my home life." They avoid me now.
I have friends with kids and are in happy living relationships, but they're definitely not upset to get some away time from the chaos of young children when they go to school or daycare. That's not to say they don't love them or love being around them, but it's a lot of work and a break isn't inherently a negative thing.
I don't like boomer humour like making constant insults about one's in laws or their spouse. I do think that your coworker definitely came with the wrong tone and probably fits that bill. Solid in you for shutting that shit down.
I 100% agree that a break isn't a negative thing and I thank my mother in law every time she watches our kid.
Never in my life will being at work be better than being at home. Regardless, It's the same guy who makes off hand comments like my wife "wears the pants" and "is the boss". I use to ignore the comments and just carry on but I didn't hold it in the last time.
Lol this guy might be a cuck and want you to bang his wife.
I get it. More people need to push back on that kind of stuff. I jokingly refer to my wife as my accountant when the discussion of money comes up, but it's because she's literally an accountant. I then give her all of the accolades for why we are financially stable and get to do fun things. Nothing demeaning, and always followed up with high praise.
Nice win for you. Congrats on the new family.