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Do your managers also believe accusations made against you before asking for your side of the story? (linux.community)

submitted 6 days ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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This has happened to me 2 times already, 4 years working at this place.

What managers say: “on day X you did Y.” Then they say nothing more, like expecting an answer from me.
What I find makes sense to say: “coworker Z (or a coworker, without naming) claims on day X you did Y. Is this true?”

To me only the second example is neutral, the way management asks question # 1 is accusatory and assumes you’re already guilty.

Am I very thin skinned?

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[–] obelisk_complex@piefed.ca 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Just correct the framing, every time they do it. Nobody can object to a more neutral framing with any sincerity. If they want to make it a larger problem, you'll look like - and actually be - the more reasonable party.