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[–] Zoomboingding@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I curated my life to suit my preferences. I'm working part time instead of full time and I'm pretty frugal. No drugs or alcohol. Lots of video games with friends, 3 d&d campaigns, working out with my significant other, reading, growing some peppers in the yard, designing my own TTRPG, drinking lots of (decaf) coffee and tea.

The biggest change was the realization that I can't make others happy if I'm not happy. I'm a people pleaser at heart, but constantly putting my SO's preferences ahead of mine made me depressed. We've both made concessions but we've arrived at a place we can both be happy.