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That feeling, is the next stage of "growing up".
One way to look at it is the lifelong individuation process described by Jungian analytical psychology.
There are other schools of thought, some spiritual and not. The purpose is the same by any name, just differing methods.
You aren't who you were as a child, or a teenager, or a young adult. The teenager could look at the child and understand how much they had to develop to get to where they are, while the child has no frame of reference for the journey it would take to become a teenager.
Same with the young adult to the teenager.
You know how everyone knows someone they feel never "grew up"? That's because the first three stages are a bit of a freebie: your developing brain does a lot of the legwork.
But after that there's no guarantees.
Reading your comments elsewhere in the thread, you have done a lot of growing and experiencing the world without in your life.
My suggestion would be to explore within if you haven't yet. Seek to understand the underlying parts of your being that make you, you.
This may sound like a hoky comment but I caution you that it is not, and there is more struggling ahead. Many don't say immature by conscious choice but by subconscious fear of the insights their psyche is asking of them.
There is also one personality type for whom individuation typically results in a sort of shrinking of social spheres. A type that typically spends it's whole life doing very particular tricks to avoid facing themselves not because they fear it, but because they fear that there is something wrong with them for going so against the norm when it comes to the mechanics of connection.
That type is also famous for being in the margins of socializing and society's expectations for them. They famously often find a great need to check in with others at some point to ask "Am I missing something about life? I'm checking all the boxes and I think I even have the right number of friends? Wait, do I?"
Dr. Carl Jung called that type the intuitive introvert.
If you find yourself to also be one of those, just know you'll want to take some extra care, and it may or may not be an easy journey depending on the totality of your social circle at the moment the script fades away.
But it's worth it in the end.
That's a personal anecdote, and I am intentionally not sharing any sources because that can also be part of the journey sometimes. Just beware, there is a lot of snake oil and scam info out there.