I’m not even gonna touch your consent analogy. I’m sorry but that’s a mess. What we are talking about is (at worst) like asking for coffee and someone bringing tea. Not like getting tricked into a date by someone pretending it’s a job interview, the power dynamics alone…

I'm sorry. But you are demonstrating the attitude of a rapist. People have a right to consent to participate in any sexual or romantic situation. They have a right to go into these situations with full informed consent. I have no direct evidence you've actually raped anyone. I'm not accusing you of being a rapist. But, you are demonstrating a respect for consent similar to what rapists believe. And when people call you out on it, you waffle and pretend it's no big deal, just like every rapist ever. While I don't have any evidence that you've raped someone, it wouldn't surprise me at all. You have a real problem with consent.

Consent matters. Obviously it's far more critical for sexual consent than romantic consent.

But to you, consent doesn't matter at all. Put someone in a surprise romantic encounter? No big deal. Take someone who is trying to have a first date with a potential romantic partner, and you screw up the whole dynamic without their consent by turning it into a gathering? Again, no big deal. They've cleared their whole evening, spent time and money to get there, all on your word. But none of that matters, because you changed your mind. You don't even owe them a head's up in advance! You told them they would have a chance to have a close and intimate conversation with a potential love of their life. You decided to bring your buddy to the table. They don't matter, only you matter.

All that matters is your happiness, your comfort, and your pleasure. Rules of social etiquette be damned. Basic respect for other human beings be damned. The free will and happiness of others be damned. You're the main character in this world, and everyone else just has to bend to your choices.

You have the attitude of a rapist.