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Basically, I was at the movies, and I decided to go to the restroom afterwards. At the movie theater, the men’s restroom and the women’s restroom are right next to each other and they have the signs for which bathroom is which obviously. The bathroom I walked in, I legitimately thought I was walking into the men’s restroom. I am a male. I was walking into the bathroom and obviously the first thing I was looking for was the urinals, I couldn’t find them anywhere and I just kept walking inside the bathroom to find them, but I never could. It was just straight toilets. And then I hear this woman walk in and and then I see them around the corner and she’s with her daughter. So out of the awkwardness because I was still kind of confused, I asked her something along the lines of which bathroom it was and she said “I think it’s the women’s” but then I apologize to her, and then it was another woman behind her that walked in and I apologize to her as well I think. And so then I went into the men’s bathroom which again was right across, saw the urinals in there but ironically, they weren’t even accessible because they had the yellow tape across so I use the stall. And then it was a guy in there as well that I just brought the whole situation up to him because I figured he was with one of the women that just walked into the bathroom and I apologize to him and just told him I legitimately thought the other bathroom was the men’s bathroom. And then I walked out, and they were behind me, and I held the door for them and I apologize to them one last time. I believe the woman just smiled and the guy just said “you’re all good man.” I feel like you can imagine anybody would feel embarrassed about that interaction, Like I legitimately did not go in there with bad intentions I just had to use the bathroom and I’m just hoping none of them think I was being creepy. Any advice will be helpful. I’m 22 I’ll be 23 in less than a month.

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[–] Nangijala@feddit.dk 3 points 1 day ago

Nor should you <3

I can't say that this will help you, but I have used this saying to work on my own anxiety issues and it kinda sorta helps a little bit like ointment on a burn when I become extremely anxious about whether or not I did something to upset other people:

Everyone is too busy worrying about how the world judges them that they don't have the time and energy to judge you.

I know OCD isn't as easy as "just change your mindset, broooo", but if that line can help you in any way during episodes where you're fearful you did something wrong, then take it!

It doesn't fix anxiety, but it can help a little. And in my case it reminds me that I'm not the only anxious person out there xD

Big hugs for you ! Be good to yourself <3