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I will elaborate on my position: horniness and romantics are options to enjoy life.
And when someone is deprived of some of the options life gives, it is sad for me.
This person is not deprived of romantic relationships; they're there if they chose to pursue them. They choose not to as they do not derive enjoyment from them. Do not feel sad, be happy they know themselves better than most.
What I've derived from their answer is that they are incapable of sexual or romantic feelings. Hence they call themselves aromantic / asexual.
But if they're capable and it's their conscious decision to be aro / asex - then it's another story.
I mean, if you want to get into it sure. But at the end of the day, different people like different things and we all live different lives. It's not a reason to feel sad for someone. It's not like they resent their lack of sexual or romantic feelings, that's just how they are.
Thats not better.
Just because I'm not into what you are into doesn't mean my life is lacking. You like chocolate, I don’t like sweets much at all but if I have to choose a flavor, I like the taste of un-flavored foods as much as I like a strong curry.
Same thing. You see my life as lacking because of what you think I should like based on what you like, but it’s plenty rich in ways that actually speak to what I like.
I think that is exactly the case here. People just can't comprehend how a life other than their own would look like.
I guess that also falls under the Dunning Kruger Effect?
Oh, I can.
For years I had severe clinical depression and it rendered me incapable of feeling almost anything towards my SO, friends and relatives.
It was... I wouldn't wish that upon anyone.
Now medication at last is working and it's like chalk and cheese.
That's... not the same as being aro at all. It doesn't mean you feel nothing towards anyone. Just that you're not interested in romantic relationships at all.
What is left, when you subtract sexual and romantic aspects?
Not should. Could be able to.
Well to be honest I believe if I was given the option to not be weighed down by such feelings then I would take it.
Really would make it easier to make genuine connections with people without my subconscious doing some funky shit.
Now I could be wrong and I am assuming of course but I feel like a lot of those (not all) who are free from such urges prefer it that way and even if given the option to feel those things they wouldn’t take it.
I would like an option to switch horniness on and off - that would be the best!
Do you bother blind people about how they could experience the world if they were sighted, too?
Like its a moot point, idk what you hope to gain here other than being a dick about how your way is better when I have no way to ever know, and you can never see my point of view either.
Bother? If we would have a discussion with a blind person I would say, that I'm sorry too.
You probably have thought it's condescending, but I've meant it as compassion.
And now you're attacking me.