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But why do you think that you can't talk about things that interest you as small talk? Sharing interesting facts about stuff is absolutely small talk! You're saying you don't want to small talk, you want to info dump, but those aren't mutually exclusive!
Autism, bro.
I am capable talking about whatever you define as small talk, but its not enjoyable for either of us if I do. Like I said, I'm there for real problems or philosophical musings for deep issues of life.. and the infodump process is enjoyable for me, but that it NOT small talk.
You're saying it's simultaneously enjoyable but not enjoyable?
I really am not interested in finding a third way to express this to you. You're free to do whatever mental gymnastics are required to continue to hold an absolute belief on this topic, which has no meaning.
And you're welcome to keep refusing to believe that sharing fun facts with people can be small talk, no skin off me. Also it feels odd to that you accuse me of mental gymnastics to hold an absolute belief, when other people here define the same conversational patterns and topics as small talk when it's with people they don't wanna talk to, but some other mystery thing when it's with people they do want to talk to. Not sure what is more gymnastics than that.
Yeah I didn’t say that, and you’re kind of demonstrating my point.
How about this: I actually really enjoy it and just cant accept the convoluted logic to understand that for myself.
Now you’re right! Just like you want to believe.