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I guess my gripe is the examples people give, like if you really don't care, why ask? And I don't mean the standard "hi how are you fine thanks you fine" dance, I mean why ask a cashier how their day is going if you don't care? If you want to talk to them, why wouldn't you ask them something you actually do care about? There are plenty of ways to conversate, break ice, fill a silence (if people feel so obligated) that don't involve asking questions that they don't care about, so why ask the ones they don't care about and then complain about the process? "Omg, I asked the cashier about the weather, but I hate talking about the weather and it sucked." Then ask about something you do want to talk about if you want to talk? It's not like it's impossible.
Because it's polite, we live in a society
I never said not to though, lmao, I said to pick something you actually want to talk about.
I never said you said not to, LOL
That's the question I answered, it's in the very first sentence of the comment I responded to.
If it's a short interaction, I'd rather just exchange meaningless pleasantries to indicate to them I'm a normal person and we can both go about our days. I don't necessarily want to talk to them at all, but saying, "hey how's it going" "fine, how are you" takes no effort and lets both parties quickly evaluate the mental and emotional state of the other. It's social lubricant, it's more hygenic than shaking strangers' hands and quicker than telling them your life story. Plus if it's someone doing their job, I'm not going to try to start a substantive conversation with them, that might just distract them and cause them to make a mistake.