Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
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Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
To make such a request, at the start of the body of your post, not in the title, the first line should look like the this: [Requesting Engagement from _________]
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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It's very much a dated term from a bygone era of our understanding of gender. I don't necessarily begrudge anyone for using it, but in my opinion as a term it doesn't really make sense. Sex is also a socially constructed concept, and is not rooted in any one particular feature of our bodies or genetics. You can be of one sex and have the anatomy we commonly attribute with another, and legally speaking sex is divorced from genitalia.
Your sex can also be measured in many different ways, even from a purely biomedical stand point. You have phenotypes, blood hormonal sex (endocrine sex), secondary sex characteristics, and so on so forth. And when it comes to social sex, how we socially define sex, it all comes down to perception and the self-reported sex of the individual. I identify as a trans woman, as trans female, and both a woman and female independent of the qualifier "trans". Those terms describe how I see myself, and how I have seen myself since I accepted that I was transgender.
Equating sex 1:1 with genitalia doesn't make any sense. Where I live its possible to have your sex designation changed before having reassignment surgery. This is how it should be everywhere. And ultimately the only time where your assigned gender at birth should be relevant should be within the private boundaries of a medical office. And even then, doctors should be aware of the way that transitioned individuals have unique health requirements that are totally divorced from cisgender people who share their assigned gender.
As the moderator of the board I think anyone can use whatever terminology in self reference that they are comfortable with, and I don't think any particular terms should be forced onto someone. However any usage of the term "transsexual" to mean post-op in reference to anyone but yourself is against the rules as a form of gatekeeping and will not be tolerated. If someone who is post-op prefers that term for themselves that's fine, but going around declaring that someone is or isn't a transsexual because they have or haven't had bottom surgery isn't okay here.
Edit: changed wording at the end to be clear that choosing to use the term yourself is absolutely fine.