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Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that's a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn't feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that's too small.

But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.

Anyone else relates to this.

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[–] FatVegan@leminal.space 7 points 1 week ago (9 children)

I'm 1.85m tall and do feel like it's a pretty good height. I was never aware that that counts as tall. But at the same time, i don't think i ever got anything out of it, other than being able to reach a bit better in the supermarket or something. Having more leg room in a car and so on sounds neat.

[–] SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 12 points 1 week ago (7 children)

It's like white privilege (but obviously less profound): The benefits are in what doesn't happen to you: No jokes about your height. No failed job interviews. No romantic difficulties because of your height. People don't constantly interrupt, or act like you're not even there. That kind of thing.

[–] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Yes, but that cuts both ways. The number of cars that really don't fit at 185cm.

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Short person: Securing employment and finding love are harder for me.
Tall person: I know exactly what you mean, sometimes my knees bump against my luxury sports car :(

[–] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Your argument would be stronger if you left out "luxury sports". Don't get me started on flying coach.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago

I think we all, tall and small alike, can agree the airlines can get fucked with the way they jam inhuman numbers of seats into the airplane. You know they bribe Congress with free flights, to keep themselves carved out from disability -access laws and even basic decency for their passengers.

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