I think the attitude of "oh, if you're a maladjusted man, you need to go get a girlfriend" is a toxic social expectation and one of the major causes of the male loneliness epidemic.

There are a lot of sad men in the world who have very solvable emotional problems. But instead of working on self improvement (exercise, mindfulness, therapy, getting friends, starting a hobby), they go looking for a girlfriend to fix them. The girls say "this isn't the 1950s, buckaroo, I don't have to be your mummy anymore", and reject the men. Then the men become incels and go online looking for male validation. They find the manosphere, and people like Tate say "exercise, eat good, practice grindfulness, and hate women". And since some of that advice is good, the men feel better and follow the bad parts too, like hating women. Which just makes them more bitter and lonelier people.

So, uhhhh, cultist who wants a demon to kill your rival. You should go for a walk, have a nutritious meal, do something that makes you happy, think about your place in the universe, and make a new friend. You don't need a girlfriend to practice healthy living, and you certainly don't need to hate women to practice healthy living.

[–] zerofk@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 hours ago

Making new friends is exactly what daemon summoning is for.

[–] asqapro@reddthat.com 8 points 14 hours ago

I had that mentality of "I just need girlfriend to fix me" for a long time. I was lucky that enough people like you made posts and comments like these and the message eventually got through to me. Therapy has been great for helping me understand how to fix and improve my life without relying on someone else, and that's motivated me to exercise more, eat better, and improve my mental health through journaling and other activities.

I know it can sometimes feel like you're shouting into the void with comments like this, where a few people upvote and you get some silly responses, but you never know if your comment may be the one that finally gets through to someone. I appreciate comments like this and I hope people never stop repeating it.

[–] mokey@therock.fraggle-rock.org 3 points 16 hours ago

Sir, this is a Wendy's