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Iโm sorry for your loss.
I would feel the same way if I lost my wife.
Enjoy every moment with her. There will be times of differences, arguments and disagreements ... work your way through them and if there is ever any bad feeling, always go back and apologize ... none of it matters. The greatest things that hurt the most right now are the memories of how I wanted to win arguments and got angry and mad over some stupid things. No relationship is ever perfect, you will miss out on things you like or want to do ... but the same will be true for her .. both of you will lose on certain things because you both want to be together. That is all within reason too ... if either one of you is outright abusing or taking advantage of the other and the relationship is completely lopsided, then you got to leave that situation. Otherwise .... shrug off any bad feelings, always go back and talk through them, no one is keeping score or racking up points ... because in the end, all you will ever miss is being with that person whether in good times or in bad.
Enjoy whatever time you have together because if you think you have years or decades to be together ... in the end, no matter how long it lasted, it feels like no time has gone by at all.