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[–] TerrabyteMarx@quokk.au 3 points 1 week ago

Not sure I ever existed any other way, hence long history of self medication. But I'm learning schema therapy at the moment and using Lemmy to talk about concepts helps to solidify them so here's some unsolicited advice.

Shame is never going to be conducive to getting out of that cycle. You can't self flagellate yourself out of it, but your brain might depend on shame in order to reaffirm what you think you know to be true about yourself and to stay in a familiar cycle.

Schema uses a model including 'neurotypical critic' to simplify all these messages we internalise from a society that focuses on optimisation and productivity. Beliefs we form about ourselves that typically solidify by the time we're 5 years old.