Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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A lot was already mentioned, so I’ll just add a couple of things. One resource I used to help me understand if I was trans was this
Laser can be very euphoric, and if you have the right skin tone/ hair color it can be very effective. Also, lots of places have packages that go on sale or Groupons.
voice training is something you can do wherever you are in your transition, and depending where you are / what insurance you can get a speech language pathologist that specializes (or at least is familiar with) in trans voice training.
Also adding on to the other suggestions about clothing, just be aware that your body changes shape on E, so clothing may start fitting differently as time passes if you end up doing hrt. For me trying cloths before hrt was not as euphoric until after my body started changing shape so if you do hrt it is something to look forwards to. It also can take a while for changes and they don’t necessarily happen in the same order for everyone. For me my boobs started growing in the first month but now it’s been over a year and I have just started noticing fat redistribution in my legs and face.
Social changes are similar and it’s up to you how quickly or slowly you go. For me it was a lot of pressure to explain to people what I was doing (especially because I am not doing a purely binary transition) and one of the best pieces of advice I got is that you don’t owe anyone, including people close to you, answers until you are ready to give them. Similarly you don’t have to be the one to explain what being trans means to you to every person that asks you. Overall, although it can be challenging, transitioning at your own pace can be really fun as you figure things out and get to decide a lot about who you are