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The two things I feel I'm knowledgeable enough about now to advise on are tucking and breast forms.
If you decide to try tucking, don't go for a gaff right off the hop. They're expensive and really only work after you've got a good technique down. The best option I use is 2 pairs of elastic cotton panties that are a size or two small, and practice with those until you feel you have it down. I've found period panties can be a good option as well.
There's a couple different types of breast forms you can try. I use ones I crocheted with the pattern from knitted knockers in my day to day. They're lightweight, breathable and stay put in my bra. The other type I've used are silicone. They're a liquid silicone in a plastic sack essentially, so they have the weight and bounce of real breasts, but unless you have a pocket bra made for them, or use medical adhesive to glue them to your chest, they are prone to slip out. They also don't allow your skin to breathe, so you need to give your skin a break between wearing them, no more than a day or two at a time.
Neither is required, but if you're impatient or insecure about your body like me, they're great options for making yourself look more feminine. Have fun discovering your new self! ❤️
That's what I did. I never even owned a gaff. I got by with just wearing two pairs of cotton panties a size or two too small. Did that right up until SRS eliminated the need to tuck forever. Seriously. Tucking SUCKS. Eliminating it was one of the best things about getting SRS.