Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I'd say starting hrt (once you're more sure of who you are) is up there for most important things to do, the effects are life changing and any extra time you can be away from testosterone the better
past that, shave your body and paint your nails. learn makeup if you like and just be ready for a long journey. transition is a marathon, not a sprint!
proud of you for coming out, the hardest person to come to terms with is yourself
I would second the marathon part. Often the most distressing part of transition is from years 1-3 or so. At year one, the initial euphoria from coming out has worn off. But you're only one year in to what is really an 8-10 year second puberty. One year in, you're no more "done" with transition than an 11 year old is with normal puberty.
ehh, i disagree
how fast second puberty goes depends on the person, sure, but significant progress can be made in 1 year for many people. there's no need to assume that "10 years" is an average time.
i assume that it also depends on how many emotional resources you can give to it. when you're constantly stressed out because work or sth else then you can't really focus on it and so it takes much longer.
It's not about significant progress. I'm talking about how long the process takes to actually get done. There's a lot of bad info out there about HRT only producing effects for the first two years or so. This comes from the fact that most studies on HRT effects simply don't last longer than two years.
But I've met many trans people who get distraught in the early part of HRT, concluding that "hormones do nothing" or that they're having no effect. Hell, I was one of them. And I am talking specifically about HRT here. Emotional resources and time don't really factor into what effects you get from HRT, unless you're so incredibly stressed that it's actually materially affecting your health.