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[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Somebody actually cat-calls women? Not just a stereotype from 80's broadcasting?

If they do, I'd imagine it's a role they think they have to play for their peers. Do they do that when they are alone?

[–] RoquetteQueen@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Tbh, they catcall teenage girls far, far more than they catcall women. And yes, it happens all the time when you're young enough.

[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

As a man I can't say much, but I have never seen it done. There might be some geographical differences.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Or perhaps it’s because you aren’t the target for catcalling?

[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

True, but in my 40+ years I'd expect to be a bystander at least once.

Not saying it doesn't happen, just interested where.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Everywhere. It happens everywhere.

It’s very easy to miss what women go through on a regular basis when you’re a man tbh.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It’s very easy to miss what women go through on a regular basis when you’re a man tbh.

but ULTRA surprising and VERY ego inflating when it does happen, but probably only so if you're a man. lol

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Ew no. It’s demeaning and humiliating.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

it definitely depends on the person; i'm a man and i thought it was flattering af the few times it happened to me.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

We shouldn't be encouraging catcalling ffs

Genuine compliments should though.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 weeks ago

agreed; i'm definitely an edge case and shared my experience to counter the narrative that it's ALWAYS bad.

[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

I might have been on the other end then.

[–] Marketsnodsbury@lemmy.zip 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Search up the 2014 short video 10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman to give you some insight into how pervasive (and, unfortunately, timeless) this behavior is.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago

Ngl, it's a bit disheartening to see how many men think catcalling just.....doesn't exist.