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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by DoisBigo@lemmy.eco.br to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

So...

I've always been quiet and never had much sex. That has changed. I'm in the kind of phase that people look at me and say: "You were so nice! What went wrong!?" And now I'll have sex with men, women, ~~hookers~~ escorts, ~~removeds~~ not fully transitioned MtoF transsexuals, robots, I'll probably engage in BDSM, piss play, breath play, and other exotic activities. I won't engange in drugs/chemsex that's where I draw the line.

Thus, the advice I've always been given and followed looks a little inadequate. Somehow saying to just use condoms, pills and IUD looks like insufficient knowledge to the kind of behavior I'll engage in.

Therefore I need to up my game into sex ed and STIs knowledge and prevention. I've been looking inton PrEP, but I really need to read more about diseases and prevention to protect myself and be able to treat myself if I catch something.

Any suggestion of videos, books, and other learning resources that goes beyond the "just use a condom and have a single partner?"

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[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 27 points 1 year ago

I appreciate you amending your post to strike through the slurs and problematic language - but maybe just remove the old words entirely and leave an edit at the bottom mentioning you removed problematic language? For many transgender folk it can be quite distressing seeing the word used

As for advice for this kind of thing, as other people mentioned there's a lot of advice if you just search for it. Shrimpteeth is a wonderful resource, they have an Instagram account with a lot of free resources too.

[-] smheath@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago

I don't know how it looks on Lemmy, but on Kbin the words aren't struck through. OP, you definitely want to remove them.

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Huh, maybe it's beehaw doing some awesome work to make the experience nicer

[-] neshura@bookwormstory.social 2 points 1 year ago

Ok I get how tranny is a slur but wtf is wrong with calling a hooker a hooker? Isn't that word just a synonym for prostitute or is there some weird american subtext I'm too european to understand?

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Could we like, not double down on just blurting out slurs in a thread about how slurs are harmful? Like, as a trans person who just asked OP to remove the word because its needlessly distressing, I'm just baffled that you'd reply to me in particular that way.

As for how the other word is a pejorative term for a sex worker, I don't know, but by virtue of them choosing to censor it, I must assume they had a reason?

As an aside, in an effort to move away from the awful social stigma surrounding some of the "older" terms (not that the words themselves are necessarily derogatory, but that the profession itsself is stigmatised as being a negative thing), many prefer to use simply "sex worker" to legitimise both the person and their chosen profession.

this post was submitted on 27 Sep 2023
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