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Hey I'm new here!! :3

For context, I'm pre-HRT but have appointments coming up.

I'm curious. What do you do when you get pangs of denial? I have written dowm a list of logical reasons of why I'm a tgirl. But that doesn't change the fact that sometimes I feel like I'm in denial of something I logically know myself to be.

Thanks, have a nice day!!

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[–] matchaotter@lemmy.zip 2 points 13 hours ago

As someone who gave in once, I can tell you it usually doesn't work out to deny.

I made an appointment for HRT, saw the Endocrinologist, and cancelled the follow up which I'd receive the meds the day before it happened. The entire time I kept telling myself that I'd still be "me" but doing HRT in secrecy from friends/family/society. I chopped my 3.5 years of hair off, grew my beard for the first time ever, then by 2/3 months later decided I hated that. Nearly a year later, I was back at a new DR appointment for HRT. I've been on HRT for over 3 years now, with bottom surgery just 3 weeks away.

Not saying this doesn't guarantee someone could permanently back out, but it's very unlikely that you're capping to yourself if you've already got the appointments set up.